Yes, You’re Confused. But You’re Not Alone.
“My mother is in the hospital recovering from hip surgery. I’m told she’ll be discharged in 4 days. I’m so stressed and confused because I have no idea what our options are once she’s discharged!” “Should she come home, should she move into a care facility or …….?”
“My father keeps repeating himself and he does it all day long! He’ll ask when I’m going to work; I say ‘In about 15 minutes, dad’.” “He’s quiet for a few minutes and then the whole thing starts all over, again. “Steve, when do you go to work? …. and on it goes.” “I love my dad and don’t want to be unkind and, have no idea how to respond so he’ll stop asking me the same question.”
These are just two of many challenges that clients bring to a consult.
It can be so confusing and worrisome when you feel it’s obvious that your loved one needs more help, and they perceive the exact opposite. Because they disagree with you, it’s easy to second guess and doubt your own judgment.
Please know this: it’s possible to gain the clarity you’re seeking about this situation and for both of you to get your needs met.
Imagine what it would be like to be clear about what your loved one needs. You’ll have more peace-of-mind and they’ll be safe and well cared for. You won’t be preoccupied with worry about whether you’re doing the right thing. When your stress level eases, you’ll have more energy to do what you enjoy. The end result: you’ll be able to give from a place of fullness and love, not emptiness and frustration.
I “get it.” I know first hand how it feels to suddenly realize that life can’t continue along “as is” and that changes must be made. As an experienced care manager and consultant, I’m clear about what sorts of approaches work well and which don’t. I’ve also got a keen eye for “red flags” that tell you when more help is needed.
I’d recommend we begin with a 30-minute free consult to see if I am a good fit for your situation and needs. If we both feel it’s a great match, we will schedule a consulting session. Each session is tailored to meet your specific situation, and make sure you have a clear plan of action and the resources you need.
These sessions can happen in-person in Portland, Oregon or remotely via phone or Skype, and can last from 60-90 minutes. My rate is $100 per hour.
I would like to share with you what a client said about their experience. When you’re ready to connect with me, please book an initial consult!
I reached out to Linda for an assessment on care-giving options for our mother. She provided a comprehensive evaluation that provided me with alternatives to research on my own as well as advice that I could apply immediately to improve communication and support, while maintaining my personal boundaries. Linda brings compassion, empathy, and first-hand knowledge to an area that is a deeply personal struggle for many people who are reliving childhood trauma as they deal with aging parents. She creates a trusting space for her clients to regroup and refocus their efforts in a constructive way for their families. – MM
Contact me or use the calendar to set up a free initial 30-minute consultation to find out if my consultation services are right for you and your loved one.